Why Men Marry Bitches. Usually I get bored or annoyed when reading books on relationships but this Sherry, did she keep me riveted! It was a weekend and I finished it in one day. What I love about the book is that it isn’t another relationship advice from an opinionated individual- most are. She obviously did her research, tells the story from the perspective of variety of men and is objective. Why Men Marry bitches is filled with so many useful insights- you’ve got to read it. I decided to share a small part with you. It resonated with me and what type of woman the Plushist is about- fashionable yes, stylish yes but also strong. Strong, independent women. Read and tell me what you think!
Relationship Principle 52When a man sees you are focused on your own dreams or on elevating yourself, he feels safer marrying you because he doesn’t worry about what you’ll be trying to take away from him Men, more than ever, are warming up to the idea that a woman who can contribute financially can be an important asset. He marries a woman who has depth. Men worry about making ends meet and what you would do if he fell short of cash. Men are secretly afraid of being inadequate and of showing their weak side. They are afraid that after they woo you, and they turn out to be less than the Prince Charming fantasy you fell in love with you’ll up and split. Rest assured, men have dreams of finding that special girl to spend the rest of their lives with. But in his dreams, his partner is someone he can count on. This is why a bitch appeals to men. She’s more real. Men don’t talk about this need for “security” because it’s not considered manly. It’s a taboo. But they want the feeling of security also. Here’s what runs through his mind when he thinks about marrying you:
“Would she grab the next available cash cow if I was struggling financially?”
“Would she be able to hold down the fort if there was an emergency?”
“Would she leave me for a new guy with a new Mercedes and a bigger house?”Men tend to approach love as though it’s a business- deal negotiation. One of the most common things I heard in my interviews with men was the question “What is she bringing to the table other than sex?” Men usually label a weaker woman as a liability and a stronger woman as an asset. It’s just like business school when there is an acquisition and they calculate “value added”. His knee-jerk observation goes something like this:
|A woman who is desperately looking for a guy to rescue her from her life. Her only goal is, “I need a boyfriend.” “It will be like adopting a child I’ll need to take care of. She needs someone to pay the bills”||A strong woman with goals, who won’t give herself away. Then he feels, “She really loves me for who I am. She’s not with me because she needs a meal ticket or a daddy”|